• Kathy Shaw

It's OK to not be OK

Updated: May 25, 2020

Mental health is important at every stage of life, from childhood and adolescence through adulthood.

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices.

Statistics tell us that 1 in 4 adults and 1 in 8 young persons will experience a mental health problem this year, yet not everyone will ask for help. It can be confusing and frightening when you experience problems with your mental health; it can feel like you’ve failed, or that you are losing your mind. You feel lost and alone and unable to share your fears and this in turn increases your feelings of distress and isolation. We can feel so bad about ourselves that we switch off from the world, retreat into our shell and hope that the feeling will go away, when what we really need to do is reach out and ask for help. It’s a risk to open up and share your most private thoughts and feelings when you are feeling low and vulnerable but there is only so much pain the human heart and mind can cope with before it melts down. We cannot cope with all our pain alone. Humans are social creatures and naturally seek the companionship of others as part of their wellbeing, but society has taught us that to become dependent upon another person is a sign of weakness. It has taught us that a sign of a successful adult is to have the ability to deal with problems on our own, and that to ask for help is a sign of failure. Is it any wonder why people keep their problems to themselves?


The good news is that there are people that think talking about your mental health is a good thing. Talking about your problems can help you to feel supported and less alone. It can encourage others to open up and talk about their problems and it normalizes the fact that everybody has thoughts and feelings that can sometimes trouble them. Talking to someone that you trust and that will not judge can be the lifeline that you have been looking for. When you need someone to LISTEN to you and you don’t want that person to be your best friend, spouse, partner, child, parent or other confidant, it’s time to call a counsellor.


  • Sometimes it's easier to talk to a stranger.

  • During therapy you get time to talk, scream, shout, cry, without the fear of upsetting anybody.

  • The space offered in the therapy room allows you to look at your problems in a different way.

  • In therapy there is nobody trying to "fix" you.

  • Your negative thoughts can be explored in depth so you can get an understanding of where your feelings come from.

  • The relationship you build with your counsellor can help you feel supported and valued.

  • Talking therapies help you to grow and live life to the full.

  • Your confidence and self esteem will improve as you play an active part in your therapy.

If you are suffering with your mental health it can feel overwhelming to contact a counsellor. Making that first call can be terrifying. However, counsellors are trained professionals that have extensive experience of helping someone who is distressed.

If you are ready to talk you don't have to suffer alone, help is here. Reach out today, you'll be glad that you did.

Take care


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